loved this a lot. i've (mostly incidentally, except perhaps in my early 20s) been in mostly age-gap relationships, and while i'm not interested in pathologizing myself, i do think there are pros/cons, as in any relationship. sometimes when people discuss age gaps they do so under the assumption that the older partner has financial power to wield, which has never been the case for me, and perhaps that's why i've never felt an imbalance. sorry for the word vom, but this really resonated!
amen amen amen! i appreciate the note about not wanting to pathologize yourself - seems pretty much inevitable when people try to analyze themselves in the context of a relationship - but ultimately very reductive
loved this a lot. i've (mostly incidentally, except perhaps in my early 20s) been in mostly age-gap relationships, and while i'm not interested in pathologizing myself, i do think there are pros/cons, as in any relationship. sometimes when people discuss age gaps they do so under the assumption that the older partner has financial power to wield, which has never been the case for me, and perhaps that's why i've never felt an imbalance. sorry for the word vom, but this really resonated!
amen amen amen! i appreciate the note about not wanting to pathologize yourself - seems pretty much inevitable when people try to analyze themselves in the context of a relationship - but ultimately very reductive